Monday, July 18, 2016

Just a note

Hello...

 I wanted to let you know that my dear friend Eileen passed away yesterday evening.....



She never asked me for anything, certainly not to undertake responsibility for her, and be her primary carer. In fact she never wanted me to know how ill she was because she knew I'd be upset. When I did find out and found her in a hospice, where she'd spent a month with no visitors, I made her a promise - As her own children were not going to be there for her, I would...I would take the journey with her and be there till the end...
  I kept my promise...3 long months and 7 heart wrenching hours by her side yesterday have left me numb,exhausted and brokenhearted
My wonderful son and lovely husband have supported me and helped me throughout my quest to honour my friend and you lovely people have been amazing, keeping Eileen and I in your thoughts and prayers, giving me the strength to continue when many times I felt overwhelmed and out of my depth. 
To you all - I thank you with all my heart.

In the midst of all this there has been much going on and yes, much neglected... My adored great nephew Ross is in hospital as I write and our family are once again in turmoil...I've long forgotten what normality is...

Tomorrow I have 2 posts scheduled and then I am taking a little timeout. I won't be visiting your blogs for the next few days but I know you're fine with that. 

Hugs to you all

~ Ros ~




 

19 comments:

Jeanneke said...

Sending blessings and love for some comfort to you, dear Ros.

Mac Mable said...

Just wanted to say Sorry, I am thinking of you and what a fabulous friend you've been x

Leslie Miller said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, Ros. You sent her off with love and peace and everyone needs that. It's sad to think she went through this alone for so long. You're a good friend and you need a rest now.

Stella said...

I am so sorry for your loss and you lost a very dear friend. You were there till the end. Terminal illness and going through the last stage of life is heartbreaking and difficult. And you were there for Eileen. And she knew you were there. You did a very difficult job but in a wonderful way to support your friend.

Thinking of you while Ross in now in the hospital.. Sending a big hug and love from all of us...XXXXXXX

Kirsty Vittetoe said...

I am sorry to hear about your loss Ros, it has been hard for you the past three months, big hug to you!
Just like you said, when we had to go through so much and suffered in silence, we became numb and forgot what normality is like, I often wonder, why do I have bad dreams one after another, when is it going to end, sigh.... Sorry once again my dear friend, I really wish we could hold each other and cry out loud to let all the stress out! Big hug once again!

Judith said...

Dear Ros,
I am thinking of you
... in my prayers.
May God bless you and give you strength!
You are in my thoughts!
Sending a big hug,
Judith

riitta k said...

You had a tough path being a true friend to your friend. Hugs Ros <3

Sylvia said...

I am sorry I wasn't here yesterday, Ros, I know you are really feeling at a loss right now. Prayers are with you my friend and your family as well!

Diane said...

So sorry for the loss of your friend, but what a wonderful friend you are to be by her side as I am sure she was very grateful for having you! Yes, take some time for yourself to regroup and mourn, but know I am thinking of you and a big hug to you my friend...you are the BEST!!

Marina said...

So sad for you Ros. What a wonderful friend you are!
I hope your nephew is recovering.
Take care of yourself.
Love Marina

Kathy Krug said...

I am so sorry about the loss of your friend. I know that this must be bitter sweet for you because it is so hard to watch someone suffer through those last days. I am glad she had you to comfort her during the difficult time. Take some time for your self and heal.

Barbara said...

Oh Ros... I want to say I'm sorry to hear about Eileen's passing (and I am) but I also feel that she is in a better place now and went there knowing she was not alone. Thanks to you. Now you take good care of yourself.

Jinny Newlin said...

Oh, hun, take all the time you need, and don't you worry about visiting us at all. It's been a long time since I've been around visiting, too... SO MUCH going on, that I'll never share in blogland. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I know Eileen would say it again and again, if she could, but thank you for being such a great friend! We all need more of you in our lives. XOXO

Gail said...

Sending big hugs and cuddles your way for being an amazing friend to Eileen in her time of great need .I'm sure this must have been quite harrowing and emotionally draining for you - spend some quality time with your loved ones and re charge your batteries.

Davi said...

Ros So sorry about your friend! I know how heart wrenching it is to watch a friend suffer and the empty feeling as they slip away. Im sorry you had to go thru this but Ros your wonderful compassionate heart was an amazing blessing to your friend! I will be praying for sweet Ross and for strength for you as you regroup. Big hugs friend :)

Greta said...

My heart aches for you, Ros. Hoping somehow you can feel the virtual hugs, my friend.

Sue Lelli said...

I am catching up on your posts and just came across this one about your dear friend Eileen. Just know in your heart that being there for her was such a gift - actually to both of you! There is a special place in heaven for you!

Lisette Baker said...

Just catching up with blog visits Ros and so sorry to hear of your loss. You were a true friend and Eileen will have treasured the love and care you showed and gave during her final months. Hugs xx

Chriss Blagrave said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss...sending big hugs to you ❤️

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